Wednesday, 22 August 2007

“Don’t have a wishbone where your backbone should be!”

There is an old story about a man who went to a tattooist because he had always wanted a tattoo of a lion on his back. The tattooist started to sketch the tail into the man’s torso: ‘Ouch! What are you doing?’ asked the man. ‘I’m doing the lion’s tail’ replied the tattooist. ‘Well then for goodness sake let’s have a lion without a tail!’ said the man, wincing in pain. Next the artist set about on the Lion’s whiskers. ‘Ouch!’ cried the man, ‘What’s that?’ ‘The whiskers!’ said the tatooist, getting increasingly irritated. ‘Well let’s have a lion without whiskers!’ moaned his customer. The tattooist then set about doing the Lion’s back. ‘No that hurts too!’ shouted the man. At this, the tattooist finally lost patience with the man's lack of self discipline. Throwing down his tools and the man out of his shop he shouted, ‘How can you expect to get what you want without a little discomfort?’

Self-discipline is the key
To achieve what we want will involve self-discipline to take us out of the comfort zone into a time period and area of growth until we reach a new level of success which then becomes our new normal comfort zone. Going backwards will then become uncomfortable.

If you lose 20kg you feel so much more comfortable in your clothes and when moving around. It will require self-discipline and effort to lose the weight but putting the weight back on will then feel uncomfortable.

Develop the muscle of self-discipline
Like anything, if you practice self-discipline, you exercise the muscle so that it becomes stronger. If we go through life doing only what we want, when we want and not doing anything we do not feel like doing, you can imagine how easy it would be to degenerate. Nobody actually wants to empty the rubbish or clean out their car or give up time to learn new skills but think of the consequences if no one made an effort.

Personally, I feel satisfied when I have cleared out some clutter or some other boring task.

We live in an age where everything is made to look easy. Think of those exercise workouts on the Californian beach with everyone moving effortlessly with a permanent smile on their face. My 30 minutes on a treadmill three times a week in my local gym is not so glamorous and neither do I grin all the way through but I go out in the rain, listen to get-up-and-go music, get hot and sweaty and feel good for making the effort. The result shows slowly but surely. It takes self-discipline. Anyone can buy an exercise machine but you burn up more calories using it rather than just dusting it.

"Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments."
- Jim Rohn

© Antonia Stuart-James 2007

When "I Wish" Becomes "I Will"

"The most important thing in life is to stop saying 'I wish' and start saying 'I will.' Consider nothing impossible, then treat possibilities as probabilities."

- David Copperfield, Magician

"I wish I could lose weight."
"I wish I could stop smoking."
"I wish I could exercise regularly."
"I wish I could read a book a week."
"I wish I had more customers."
"I wish I could visit my family in Australia."
"I wish I could afford to send my children to the best school."
"I wish I could speak Spanish, type faster, bake cakes, prune my roses ..."
"I wish I could give up my job and work for myself."

So what is stopping you?


We all have the same 24 hours per day and roughly the same number of brain cells combined with physical and mental capability. The difference is what we do with these resources. Other people are turning the "I wish" into "I will" and so can you.

When Anthony Robbins was at his lowest point in his life, 38 lbs overweight, living in one room and working as a janitor, he realised that things would only change if he changed. He made a commitment to read one personal development book every day. Was that easy? Probably not. Did it require sacrifice, dedication and self-control? No question. Has the effort paid off? Millions of times over.

The only way you will turn the "I wants" into reality is when they become a must which converts into a "I will". When you want something badly enough, you will have to plan how to turn the possibility into a probability. Only when the pain of not having something becomes greater than the pleasure of the alternative can you start to achieve your goals.

From 1983-85, I studied a professional qualification in Advertising & Marketing by correspondence for two years on top of a full-time job from 8.30am to 6pm. I went home and made dinner so that I was ready to start studying at 7pm and kept going until 11pm, five nights a week. Did I have other places to be? Yes. Did I have friends inviting me to join them? Yes. Did I miss a lot socially? Yes. Might I have missed interesting TV programmes? Yes, but I did not have a TV at the time so avoided that distraction. At the end of two years I was offered an interesting and challenging job with a major US advertising agency working on one of the world's top advertising clients. That was my pay-off for the sacrifice.

When "I wish I could learn to ski" becomes "I must learn to ski because it is a healthy sport in the fresh air surrounded by beautiful scenery and my sister has asked us to join her family next winter", you have taken the first step to making ski-ing a reality. Write down the reasons why you must have or do something then post them where you can see them everyday. You might need resources like money to do a training course, money you do not currently have spare in which case I suggest you learn how the Law of Attraction can bring into your life whatever you desire once you know how to apply the science.

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"How am I going to live today to create the tomorrow I'm committed to?"
- Anthony Robbins

© Antonia Stuart-James 2007

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Tuesday, 21 August 2007

What Would You Change Right Now?

" What would you change right now, if you knew you could only succeed?!"

That is quite a challenging question because it is so much safer to sit in our comfort zone and not change anything, often from an underlying sense of failure.

But what if,
1. You could cold call that company because they want to say yes to your product or service?
2. You could enrol on that language course because your natural ability to learn languages will shine leading you to fast fluency?
3. You could take up a new sport or creative hobby knowing that you will be good at it?
4. You could pick up the phone and ask someone on a date then find they have been secretely hoping you would call?
5. You could decide to finally stop smoking because this time you will stop.
6. You could start a weight loss and fitness programme because you will find a new sense of achievement and commitment.

So what makes you think you are going to fail anyway? How will you know if you do not take the decision to change and show commitment?

"We all die, the question is how many of us live?"

Take a chance on change.

© Antonia Stuart-James 2007

You Make Me Mad

The only person who can make you mad is you.

The only person who can make you feel inadequate is you.

The only person who can make you feel unhappy is you.

The only person who can make you feel jealous is you.

Life is unfortunately full of events which make us feel emotions but other people do not make us feel in any specific way. Only our own reactions to the event cause our bodily functions to remain calm or cause us to lash out in defence. We learn responses from our upbringings and many negative feelings arise from a fundamental insecurity. If we feel secure about ourselves, if we are confident and value ourselves, how can we allow someone else's comments or actions to make us feel negative?

"A minute spent in anger is 60 seconds of happiness lost."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

It seems that the more angry someone becomes, the more childish they react. Some people even go red in the face and cannot even stand anymore. That is because, in the moment of their reaction, they go back to the age they were when they first learned anger which could have been in the womb or maybe before they learned to walk. Most children have learned ANGER by the age of three, which means the average person has a mental age when they are really angry of less than three!

Out of control, ongoing negative reaction is not healthy. Any unnecessary stress can cause heart problems, high blood pressure, possibly even spark off cancer in the body. We all have cancerous cells within our body so must do our best not to ignite them thereby causing them to multiply.

The next time someone says something which makes you mad, take yourself out of the situation, close your eyes, breathe five deep breaths and sit down to think rationally. Is your reaction appropriate or has it triggered emotions from your childhood?

© Antonia Stuart-James 2007

Antonia Stuart-James is an English Hypnotherapist in Belgium helping people to make positive change, including learning to control stress and changing negative behaviour patterns.

No more excuses - How to overcome procrastination today

People become stuck in a lifestyle of procrastination because they believe their own excuses for not taking action. Procrastination is the main reason that people fail to live richer and more fulfilling lives. If you are stuck in a rut of continual procrastination, make up your mind to stop making excuses.

If you have been making excuses for putting things off, here is how to take charge of your life. First, make a list of all the things you have been postponing - at work, at home, in your personal relationships, or for your personal development.

Now choose one thing on that list that you can do something about today. Write down every excuse you have given yourself for not having done anything about it yet. Ask yourself if you have considered all the consequences of your procrastination in this area. Do you want to live with them? Do you have a legitimate reason for postponing this job?

You have to be honest about this or it will not work. Forget about what other people think; look in the mirror and ask the hard questions. If you have a legitimate reason for delaying action in this area, move on to another item on the list. Find something that you can make happen today, simply by deciding to make it happen. Now do it. When you have completed this task successfully, your satisfaction will motivate you to repeat this process with another item on your list.

Successful people know that their accomplishments depend on two things: taking action and staying focused on their goals. People who are successful in any business or profession have an ability to make things happen. All successful people win the war against procrastination because they develop certain traits. To defeat procrastination and get all you want out of life, you must:

- Know what you want.
- Force yourself to take action.
- Be willing to make mistakes and learn from them.
- Stop making excuses!

Now go back to your list and choose another project. Write down every excuse you have been giving yourself for not getting started, or for leaving it unfinished. Put as many things on the list as you can think of. Now try to eliminate one excuse at a time. Ask yourself hard questions:
- Why do I have to postpone this project?
- Is it necessary to go on postponing it?
- If Bill Gates were in my situation, would he postpone it?
- What will happen if I keep putting this off?
- If I keep putting this off, when will I get it done?
- Can I get started on it now?
- What part of the job could I complete now?
- If I postpone this job now, what other job will I tackle to make better use of my time?

As you eliminate your excuses, think of what you can do today to make this project happen, and do it. Anne Frank wrote in her diary, "How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world." Make a decision to start improving your world today.

"If we wait for the moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready, we shall never begin."
- Ivan Turgenev

© Antonia Stuart-James 2007

Monday, 20 August 2007

A brief Biography of Anthony Robbins

Tony was born on 29th February 1960, a birthday he should only celebrate every leap year. He often talks about his mother having several partners and he having several fathers during his upbringing. The Robbins family often did not have much money and he has talked about charity being offered to them on ThanksGiving.

Anthony Robbins has always been big in stature, but also big on goals too. By his late teens he had already found himself studying NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) with John Grinder, one of the founders of NLP. He did this by just pure determination and not accepting a no for an answer so that John finally agreed to show him the skills. Still in his late teens he developed his own diamond method and became very popular in helping peoples' fears and phobias.

He was labelled the "Wonder Kid" and was even written about in the national press and was earning some quite substantial money for someone of his age. But with success came self destruction and soon after, Anthony Robbins found himself sitting in a bachelor pad, overweight and where his biggest priority was to watch general Hospital on TV.

He describes a friend coming around to his apartment and convincing him that he was wasting his life away as the turning point at this stage. Anthony clearly had the tools and skills; he just was choosing not to demand more from himself. From this day he never looked back.

Robbins' big break came in Canada, where on a local radio station he challenged that he could cure anyone with a phobia or fear instantly. He was challenged by a local Physiologist who had a patient he had been working on for years and had never been able to cure her. That night on stage at a local hotel, many people had turned up to see this dual between Robbins and the physiologist. So many, that the audience was forced to stand around the walls. The patient had been afraid of snakes and nothing that she had tried in the past had worked. Tony used his skills that he had learnt with NLP and a bit of entertainment too and sure enough, within seconds, this lady was quite happy to have snakes around her.

The publicity from this event sent Tony’s career forward at an incredible speed as everyone wanted a piece of Robbins' knowledge and skills. With one year Anthony was a multimillionaire living in a castle above the cliffs of California. His books became instant best sellers and his motivational tapes were sold over the world and became the best selling motivational tapes ever. Tony was pretty much elevated to superstar status.

He now found himself helping the rich and famous. Names that publicly support Tony’s work are Michael Douglas, Andre Agassi, Quincy Jones and countless more. He has also been associated with 2 presidents, Nelson Mandela and even Princess Diana. Clearly a seriously impressive portfolio! But at his peak, Anthony was to disappoint his fans by announcing his divorce from his wife of many years Becky. Becky had appeared on many of his tapes, had a book dedicated to her, but what really upset his followers was that his divorce seemed to contradict his teachings in his books and tapes. He had often used his relationship with Becky to show that people are different and that happy relationships can be formed and can be lasting if you follow some of Anthony’s lessons.

Although some people never forgave Tony for these events, most people moved on from this realising that Tony is just as human as everyone else and happiness has to be the major factor of life. Becky apparently is still a friend with Robbins and she still works at one of his companies.

Robbins used the lessons from his own divorce, to put into his seminars and books to make him more popular than ever and now with his new wife is as active as he ever was.

Now in his forties, he sleeps only a few hours a day, has relentless energy and never accepts anything less than the best. Even after his seminars, which often finish at the early hours of the morning, he still goes to work to find out what he could have done better. Of course there are still those who criticise him and what he teaches and even those who think he is a fraud. But you cannot deny that Anthony Robbins has had an extraordinary life and like him or love him, extremely successful.

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Goal Setting

"Life is what happens to you while you are planning it".

Whenever you see anything worthwhile being done anywhere, it has to be because someone is behind it with a passion, a belief and a goal! Just imagine any country winning a successful bid to host the Olympics without a goal and detailed planning.

Likewise in your personal life and business, goal setting can make the difference between mediocrity or excellence and accomplishment.

I recommend setting goals for most everything you do in life: business goals, financial goals, health goals, personal goals, etc.

Most people just go with the flow and take the life they are dealt. Others make plans and go through life with blinkers on to overcome the obstacles that try to steal their dreams. Which type are you?

Be Specific and Know Your Reasons

Many people set the wrong goals. They are too vague. For example, "I want to make $10,000 a month." That is good but don't we all?

The real question is, "Why?"

Money will not motivate most people for very long. You will likely soon grow tired of chasing 'money'. There needs to be a stronger motivator. Look deeper at why you want to make a lot of money and you will find your true motivation.

Here are some specific reasons you might want to make a lot of money:
- To spend more time with your family.
- A new home, kitchen, furniture or other material item.
- Travel to a specific place.
- Buy someone you love something special.
- A swimming pool, pilates studio or exercise gym for personal use.
- To buy training or follow courses.
- Charity donations.
- To pay for preventative health therapy.
- Maybe it is because you do not want to ever have to work for someone else again.

These things are motivating. Suddenly, we see that it is not the money we are after, but the freedom and opportunities the money can provide. So change the goal from "I want $10,000 a month..." to "I must have $10,000 a month to..."

Write Your Goals Down

Sit down and brainstorm. Write down ALL the things you want out of life. Develop a DESIRE to achieve the goals. The desire must be intense. How do you intensify desire? Sit down and write out all the benefits and advantages of achieving your goals. Once the list goes between 50 and 100 your goal becomes unstoppable.

If you do not write your goals down, they are just wishes and not goals. If they are just wishes, they are subject to being overturned or waylaid by life's events. If they are goals, they are subject to your efforts. Write them down and be specific.

Identify Your Plan

Is there anything you need to achieve your plan eg specific training, knowledge, skills, mentoring, books, money for investment, etc? Are there any obstacles you need to overcome? If so, how? Do you need to enroll someone else into your plan?

Set Deadlines

Set a time deadline for each goal. Achieving one goal may be necessary before going on to another. Apply the salami technique: peel off one slice, achieve that then go on to the next layer.

Make Your Goals Public

Tell your friends. Write a blog entry. Send a letter to yourself and ask someone to post it to you on a specific date by which you expect to have achieved the goal.

Changing Your Goals

Certainly your goals may change over time. That is not a problem, as long as they are not changing because you are giving up on them. Sometimes it is smart to change goals and sometimes the truth is that you are quitting. If you change your goals, make sure it is for the right reason. You might need a contingency plan B or even C.

"The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail."
- Napoleon Hill.

Your goal might be to achieve a top 1000 place in a major marathon. So you only achieve place 1003. You failed or did you? Surely you achieved more than sitting at home on the couch watching the marathon.

“When things don't go exactly as planned, remember there's no such thing as perfect. What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals”.
- Zig Ziglar

Now See the Goal Achieved

Create a clear mental picture of the goal achieved. See, feel, touch, hear, smell the situation. Make a dream board if it is a tangible item. Find out how others have felt when they achieved such a goal.

© Antonia Stuart-James 2007

Antonia Stuart-James is an English Hypnotherapist in Belgium helping people to make positive change.

Do You Hunt or Fish?

Jim Rohn says, "Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become." So I have an interesting question for you (and for the moment it may seem completely unrelated, but stick with me...): Are you a hunter or a fisherman?

Now let me explain: Last week as I spoke to a group of about 100 business people, we looked at a theme I frequently speak about: Hunting and Fishing. No, not actual hunting and fishing; but instead the analogy that hunting and fishing provides us as it relates to success in general, and leadership and influence specifically. You see, there are two kinds of people: those who hunt (and are constantly tracking down success), and those who fish (or let success and leadership come to them).

So in our analogy, let me tell you why fishing is better. Fishing is about attraction. It is about magnetically having success and influence come to you. When you are hunting, everything just runs away!

How do you fish rather than hunt? Good question. Fishing is all about presenting great bait. So what is the bait? YOU! That is why personal development is so important. The more we improve, the more attractive we become to others and to success! We should make it an everyday goal to develop ourselves and improve so as to become the best people we can be. As we do that, we will begin to see success come our way with less effort than if we just sat in the same old spot personally all the time.

Take some time each day to improve yourself and become a fisher of success and influence!

You Are Made for Success!
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The 1% Concept

- Don't try to improve 100% today.
- Don't try to improve 50% today.
- Not even 25%.

"What in the world are you talking about?"

Amigo, chill, just follow me here.

I learned this 'insight' 10 years ago and it's helped me, BIGTIME, especially over the last 5 years.

Here's the bottom line. Most people don't do much. They do just what's necessary of them and that's it.

Whether they want to live a life of 'quiet desperation', they're lazy, or need a vision for their future, I don't know.

But the fact of the matter is most people just do enough to get by.

Listen, it's so easy to be UNCOMMON.

When you 'get it', you get in a flow where uncommon wealth and an uncommon lifestyle can be yours for the taking. They really can.

"Tell me more, what can I do to become more and achieve more?"
I want to SELL YOU on a concept here. Let's see if I can persuade you, ready?

Great. Onward. You see, I believe in the 1% DIFFERENCE.

I believe you don't need to do 50% or 100% more than you're doing now to make a big difference in your life.

My life gives evidence that if you do 1% more than you're doing now you get 100% more of the results.

- Put 1% more action into what you're doing.
- Put 1% more into any prospecting your doing.
- Put 1% more into your marketing.
- Put 1% more into your self education.
- Put 1% more into expanding your circle of influence.
- Put 1% more energy into your personal relationships.
- Love yourself 1% more.
- Love your customers 1% more.

I don't know how to be 100% better today, but I do know how to be 1% better.

I challenge you. Try LIVING 'The 1% Difference' for the next 72 hours. Do 1% more.

Watch how you feel. Watch how you grow.

BE great.

Source: Mike Litman

Saturday, 18 August 2007

"Can't" and Try are Swear Words

Whenever my young children say, "I can't do..." I tell them that they are right. If they tell themselves they can't do something, the result is that they can't. They say it is so and their mind believes them.

Instead I encourage them to ask for help or guidance in how to do something. It might be as simple as showing them how to use a step-ladder to reach something (as long as they are not in danger of course). It is easier to do something for a child than teach them how but in the long-term the latter is kinder and more useful. As the saying goes, "Give a man a fish and you feed him for one day but teach him how to fish and you feed him for life".

I have a male friend who is the eldest of three brothers. Whenever something needed fixing in the house, their father would do the job. The result is that all three of them are hopeless at DIY and now their father has passed away, they have no one to help so must pay handymen whenever necessary. It would have been much better for the father to do the job but with one or more sons watching and encouraging them to do at least part of the job themself. We learn through trial and practice.

As well as eliminating "can't" from our everyday vocabulary, another bad word is "try". When you say you will try to do something, it sets up a message to your brain that you might not do it. I tell my children not to try but to do their best or at least have a go. Sometimes they have never tried to do something or stretched themselves eg opening a plastic bottle. I show them how to use a handtowel to gain a better grip on the bottle. They might not have the physical strength but I encourage them to use the technique so that when their wrist is strong enough, they have learned this little piece of independence.

"Do or do not. There is no try." - Yoda

As a hypnotherapist, I listen carefully to what people say about themselves and particularly the "I can't.." and "I try.." Often that is just the problem. They are saying the wrong things to themselves and their minds keep hearing the wrong messages. They must not be surprised if they keep receiving what they do not want.

Antonia Stuart-James is an English Hypnotherapist in Belgium helping people make positive change.

Friday, 17 August 2007

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It's Up To YOU!

One of the first things successful people realize is the old adage, "If it is to be, it is up to me." This does not mean that you do it all alone. It simply means that you take responsibility for your life and your career.

Too many people today look at opportunity and figure it is up to someone else to make sure they get it. They look at financial security and hope that the government will make sure they live safely in retirement or in case of disability. They wait and wait, figuring that it is up to someone else. And then the wait is over, and it is too late to do anything. Their life is over and they are filled with regret.

This is not true for you however. You know that you must take responsibility for your life. It is up to you.

The fact is that nobody else is going to do it for you, you must do it yourself.

Now, some people may say, "Jim, that's a lot of responsibility." Friends, that is the best news you can ever hear. You get to choose your life. Hundreds of millions of people all around this world would give anything to live in the situation you do just for the chance to have the opportunity to take control of their destiny. "It is up to you" is a great blessing!

Here's why:

You get to chart your own destiny. Maybe you want to start a small business and stay there. That's great because you can choose that. Maybe you want to create a small chain of stores. Maybe you want to have a net worth of $100 million. That's okay too. The idea is that you get to choose. You can do whatever you like. different people have different dreams and they should live them accordingly.

You can reap what you sow. Sleep in and go to work late and reap the return. Or get up early and outwork the others and earn a greater return. Place your capital at risk and earn a return or place it at greater risk and perhaps reap a greater return. You decide what you will sow and thus what you will reap.

No one else can stop you from getting your dream. Yes, there will always be things that come up and people who may not like what you are doing, but you can just move on and chart your own course. There is great freedom in that.

You experience the joy of self-determination. There is no greater pride than knowing you set your mind on something and accomplished it. Those who live with a victim mentality never get to experience the joy of accomplishment because they are always waiting for someone else to come to the rescue. Those who take responsibility get to live the joy of seeing a job well done.

Let me ask you a question: Where will you be in 5 years? 10 years? Or 25 years? Do you know? DO you have an idea? Have you ever dreamed about it or set a goal for it? Are you willing to take responsibility and recognize that, "It is up to you?"

You will be wherever you decide to be in those timeframes. You decide. It is up to you.

And that is very exciting!

Jim Rohn

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Thursday, 16 August 2007

Talk to Yourself

How much time do you spend talking to yourself in a positive, caring and supportive way and how much time in a destructive, negative way?

Did you know that on average as much as 94 percent of your inner dialogue tends to be about your problems - the things you fear, your worries, the people you're angry at and other concerns?

I recently came upon this statistic and it surprised and upset me. It upset me because I believe that what we think about and focus on most of the time is what we attract into our lives. No wonder so many people are still dreaming about their ideal life rather than living it!

The more I thought about this the more I realized that I should not really be surprised since I come across this situation constantly when working with people. In fact, from my experience, replacing negative self-talk with a supportive and positive one is the first and most important step towards achieving your goals and dreams.

1. First, become aware of how you talk to yourself by putting a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself being negative (saying things such as, “What is wrong with me?” “I am such an idiot”, “I am not smart enough”; “I am too old for this now”; “I am so fat and ugly”… you get the idea) pull the rubber band and snap your wrist. This is an excellent conditioning technique that works wonders when it comes to awareness and elimination of negative self-talk!

2. Once you become aware of the negative things you say to yourself, replace them with positive and supportive words. Be loving and kind to yourself and consciously keep your inner dialogue consistent with what you wish to accomplish.

3. Use affirmations to help you program yourself to be positive. Here are some good examples:

I like myself!
I can do it!
I am the best!
Come up with your own as well and repeat them often, especially when feeling insecure or when struggling with making a decision.

Source: Masha Malka

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Bob Proctor's Insight of the Day - 15 August 2007

"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn."

Harriet Beecher Stowe
1811-1896, Novelist