A few days ago I wrote about self-sabotage, the irrational behavior of acting or taking decisions that are not in one’s best interests.
Some people expect everything to be right, perfect even, before they will commit themselves. What is perfection? If you achieve it, does that mean that is the best it will ever be? Are you closing yourself off to the possibility of an even better experience? How do you know?
It is only by accepting that life will have rainy days as well as sunny days that we can compare the two. I used to live in southern Spain where we expected 320 days of sunshine per year. Paradise you would say. Actually, I could tell you a lot of disadvantages from having so much sunshine. Premature skin ageing for one.
On the way to finding what we think is the perfect scenario, we might miss something which has the potential of bringing us the most joy, the best feeling of satisfaction, contentment or maybe we need to meet a challenge along the way to benefit from the learnings.
“Life is sent to test us.” True. Only by meeting challenge, even adversity, do we grow, become more. The more we learn, the more we can help others to achieve their potential. So the greater contribution to society. Possibly to mankind throughout the ages. How do we know we are not destined for greatness? Or possibly our heirs because of the learnings they gain from our experience.
So my advice is to embrace what you have, appreciate what you have been given, learn the lessons and give of yourself.
Alternatively, you could throw away the gifts you are given in life by rejecting something or someone you think you no longer need or want. That is what we mean by “throwing the baby out with the bathwater”.